Where did those butterflies gone?

Every relationship starts with butterflies and cheesy moments isn’t it? The one we call the honeymoon phase? We hold hands, we crave to see each other, we love spending time together, we make time for each other, knowing each other, discovering weaknesses and insecurities, talking and texting all day long etc etc. But what after few months and years? The things we do at the beginning, the efforts we give in the beginning, why do we stop them? Why the butterflies get tired and die in their sleep? Why the other person doesn’t remain special anymore? Is it because we take them for granted or because our needs are already met and we get used to it! The things which made you feel special doesn’t ring a bell anymore.. The time you used to take out for them are not found anymore.. Once you completely know a person you become bored of them because you have nothing left to discover anymore? Try reading your first texts which said “drop a text when you’re free, I’ll be waiting” which has turned into “don’t you understand I have work? I cannot deal with this right now! You know everything!” Try recalling the moments when you tried so hard to meet and blush! Instead of sitting right beside them and looking at the phone screens scrolling through social media or anything random which is absolutely unimportant!
Is it so hard to make a person feel special all through? Is it so hard to be with a person after completely knowing them? Is it really so hard to not take a person for granted? We understand the value of a person when they are gone! Why? Why can’t we just value the person when they are there with us, AT THE PRESENT? Why do we turn our expectations into our demands?
If you are in a relationship, you are lucky! Cherish the moments before it’s too late! And if it’s breaking remember it’s never too late!

Single people’s… Cherish the moments and prepare yourself for holding on to the person in your next relationship.

Remember it’s about two people, not one!♥️♥️


What do you think about this? What you do to keep your relationships alive?? Is their anything you want to share? Any experiences in your relationships?? Is their any advice you want to give to the Singles or the committed ones?? Please feel free to share with me in the comment section! I would love to read it!!

My recent posts you might like!

1. Random thoughts. 2. #Love. 3. #Inspiring quotes that help me to move on in my low days!! 4. That precious smile on her face!!!❤

Random thought #1

Patience and belief in god will definately lead you to the success.

Do you think it’s possible? Do you also think the same? Do you also believe in god and universe? If yes, let me know in the comment section and if not, you can also share your thoughts! I would love to read it!

Thank you❤


Posts you might like!

Last post:- Most embarrasing thing i did that i still regret. Some motivation:- #inspiring quotes that help me to move on in my low days. Little dose of happiness:- #5 ways to instantly feel happier!! Little dose of love:- #Love

Most embarrassing thing i did that i still regret!!

So it was my 16th birthday and i was in my 10th grade at that time. And i have a school on that day so i was very much excited thinking that i would meet my friends and classmates and everyone would wish me and my friends would surprise me with some gift and blah blah… all that stuff!! Ofcourse, who else would not be excited on her birthday!! (even though birthdays don’t excite me anymore😅). So, the moment i reached my class, there were not much students as i reached quite earlier and one of my friend was their so she wished me and then another boy from my class wished me ‘Happy birthday!’ And i dont know what was wrong with my mind?? Like how can i be so dumb?? Instead of saying thank you to him, i replied ‘same to you!’

(P.s. maybe i was so much overwhelmed by the excitement of my birthday!!😅😂)

And he was like… ‘what?!!’ For a moment i did’nt realise what i replied back to him but the second moment i realised i feel so embarrassed!! Oh goddd!! How i can be so dumb??? 😣 And everyone just started laughing at me! I wish i could go back in time and change my words or warn myself before uttering those words!!!😣😂😅 It was the most dumbest thing that i ever did in my life!!


Did you also go through such kind of embarrasing situations? Why not share it with me in the comment section!! I would love to read it!!

Thank you❤

#5 ways to instantly feel happier!!

Hey, my fellow peeps!! Hope you all are doing great!! I’m doing well!! So i was just thinking about what should i share in my next blog like i have alot of things to share but i was not able to figure out which topic should i pick up!!! But then i asked one of my friend to chose topic for me!! So she told me why not i share some tips on ways to feel happier in low days!! I was like why not?? I would love to share some tips on this topic!! Well, we all know that life is unpredictable!! There are alot of ups and downs, one has to go through. There will be days when we feel happy and also there will be days when we feel like empty, alone and sad. But still we enjoy our lives. Because some of us know how to ditch these bad feelings and refuel ourselves with those happy feelings by applying some of their quick remedies.

But not all are same. There are some people who suffer alot to tackle these bad feeling in their low days but still failed to make themselves happy. So here i’m going to share some tips that i personally apply in my low days to instantly feel happy and positive:-

1. Listen songs

Listen to the songs that you loved the most and make yourself happier. Just sit alone somewhere in the corner of your room, where no one can disturb you. Choose your favourite song! Pluggin your headphones, airpods! Volumned it up! And just get lost in the melody of that song! Feel the vibe! Dance on that beat like a crazy person, as if no one is watching you! Forget this cruel world and people who hurt you. If you have any good memory related to that song, just recall it and re-enjoy that happy moment by taking back yourself to that moment.

2. Write journal or note

This remedy has some magic! I would personally recommended this tip. I don’t know how it works, but when i feel like i can’t share my feelings with anyone or want to take that frustration out of my mind, i just open the notepad in my phone (you can also write in diary or journal if you have any secret place to hide it.) and spilt out all the frustration and pain and sadness in that text and after that i instantly feel better in my heart and i can clearly feel that change in my mood. And the next day when i try to read that note, i laugh at myself because i do not understand what i actually want to write!! Lol!!

3. Watch a movie

Movies, webseries are the best way to distract yourself. It really helps you to stop overthinking about any bad situation and also divert your mind which does’nt allow you to feel anixious, stressed and painful. Most of the time, i just prefer to watch kdramas and cdramas ( I dont know but these dramas always hit different!!) to stop myself from thinking about any negative thought. Apart from these, i binge watch netflix and prime.(Please avoid watching any sad movie or series) Try some comedy or action movies which you have’nt watched yet. I personally prefer mystery/suspense and sci-fiction series and movies because it always made me feel curious to know what would happen next!!

4. Avoid negative people

Try to avoid negative people or negative atmosphere. Negative people will never bring you good in any phase of your life. Instead, they always try to discourage you and bring you down in one or other way because that’s what they enjoys the most! Right? So if you are facing such negative friend, family member, co-worker, colleague and boyfriend or girlfriend, just get rid of them ASAP! If its your boyfriend or your girlfriend who always hurt you or manipulate you, stop making contact with them (you can also block them if you want to, on social media to keep your mind in right state ). Dont allow yourself to become infected with that toxic negativity. Instead, cut that person out of your life! Just do it once! Speak your mind and frustration that you have for that person and once you are done with it! Don’t! Just don’t! let them make any contact with you! I swear this method definately works(if applied properly and honestly) and it becomes easy for to stay positive and focused on your work and life. Because we all know peace of mind is the only key to happiness. So why bearing and struggling?? And for those who discourage you and your ideas, always maintain distance from such kind of people. They are just jealous of your success and happy life. So the best way to protect yourself emotionally from such kind of people is to be secure and confident. Dont let them doubt your abilites and undermine your desire to pursue your dreams.

5. Cry

Its ok to cry alone!!

I know, you all will be thinking why i suggested crying as a way for instant happiness?? Because sometimes the solution lies within the problems. Sometimes situation is so worse that we can’t bear it and we just feel like crying and let me tell you there is nothing wrong in crying. Do you know, crying helps to release oxcitocin and endorphins which makes us feel better. And here’s one healthy tip too! When we cry our 17 muscles are activated! So you don’t worry if you have missed your workout due to some reason! And this one is for those who wants to cry hardly but are unable to cry (this happens with me most of the times so) just chose the most saddest song and after some time you will started crying because at that moment you are just understanding the lyrics and relating it to your life. But once you started crying, cry to the fullest and when you feel like you don’t want to cry anymore, just wipe your tears and you will definaltely feel light-hearted.


I hope some of these tips help you in some or other way to brighten your day and to feel instantly happy! And let me know if you have any of your own quickest remedies to heal the bad feelings in the comment section ! I would love to read it!

Thank you❤

#Inspiring quotes that help me to move on in my low days!!

1. “Nothing lasts forever.”

2. “Get busy living or get busy dying.

3. “Selflove is the best love.”

4. “Wrong train not always take you to the right station.”

5. “Its never too late to change, you are stronger than you think, believe in yourself!”

6. “Life goes on. It is you who decides to stop.”

7. “Never expect anything from anyone.”

8. “Live a life where no moment is left unlived.”

9. “When you know your worth, no one can make you feel worthless.”

10. This one is my most favourite of all time i.e. “Let it hurt. Let it bleed. Let it heal. And let it go.”

By the way, I have more than that, but these are my most favourite ones that always inspire me to stay focused on my goals and move on when i feel like giving up. I hope some of these quotes also help you to grow and help you to move on if you are having a bad day. If you have any other inspirational quotes that help you , just let me know in the comment section! I would love to read those quotes.

Thank you❤

That precious smile on her face!!!❤

Smile!

That goddamn smile!

It changed everthing for me!! That just one glance of smile fades all the fear and pain that i was holding somewhere in the corner of my heart from a very long time . For a moment i feel like the world around me just changed and i felt like my heart just got some kind of satisfaction that everything is gonna be fine now! That now its a time of happiness and all the bad days are gone !! Here i’m talking about my amazing and precious gem! My Mom, whose smile and happiness means everything to me. You all gonna be thinking why i’m suddenly talking about my mom’s smile?? I mean like what so special in that one smile?? And it maybe not my first time to see her !!! I know it is not my first time see her smiling but this smile was so different that for the first time i felt like my mommy has the best smile in the whole wide world!! So the story here starts like it was sunday evening . The weather was moderate(niether cold nor hot). Atmosphere was very calm in the house. I was sitting next to my mom on the bed. My mom was reading newspaper and i was doing something on my gadget and i saw one video on my phone and suddenly it remembers me about the happy time of my childhood when my mom was not used to be too much sick and we all used to relax on weekends and spend a happy family time together after a full week’s rush. So i was just thinking about this, i told my mom that i miss the time when she used to cook different and delicious cuisines on weekend for us. She did’nt reply anything as she was much focused on reading newspaper!! Lol!! Then i focus on something else and started doing my other work and after sometime she asked me why not we make burgers at home?? And i was like yes mom!! Why not!! I was waiting for this from long time. It has been so long when mom has cooked something different in kitchen for us. She can usually do all the household chores easily but her disease did’nt let her do much work and most of the time she was on her medications. I’m saying so beacuse my mom is a bronchitist patient and from last two to three years, she lose alot of her weight due to which she hardly do any household chore or prepare a meal for us. But from last months during winters her health just started dropping fastly. All the time she used to do coughing and she hardly breath properly. The atmosphere was very tensed in the home!! Me and my dad used to do all household chores and look after my mother. Recently on my birthday, her health become so worse that we have to admit her to the hospital and that was the worst and saddest bday of my life. And on that day i was just praying all day to god to please dont take her away from me because she is only person i have in my life whom i can trust the most and whom i cannot lost at any cost. She was in so much pain(watching her in the hospital bed was somekind of trauma for me). After a week in hospital, she got discharged. After 2 weeks of rest, she was feeling healthy and also with that daily excercise of breathing which the doctor suggested to her, she can breath easily. And also she can easily prepare a meal for us now and also she can go to her work. So we decided to make burger on that evening. My mom started frying the patties and i filled the burger stuffing. While frying, some of the patties got burnt and my mom was getting sad but i said to mom that its ok as she was doing it after long time. We both were enjoying that moment even though everything was messed up. And while stuffing the burgers the stuffing came out of the bun and i got frustrated and my mom was like “its ok!!” And then she smirk!!! because we both already made a lot of mess while preparing burgers!!! We both were getting frustrated on our epic fails but in that frustration there was also happiness in the air and we both can feel it and was just living that moment. And when i saw that precious smile and happiness on her face i was stunned for a while beacuse this was happening after so long. I realized back then the time was so devastated that we all forget how mom use to smile! At that moment i just wanted to stop the time there and all i want was to live that moment as much as i can. After so long everthing was feeling so good in my house! I can feel that beam of ray reflecting from that dark clouds. And seriously i think its a fact that a mother’s smile can change the whole atmosphere of the family. Her face was shining as bright as sun. There was some kind of magic in her smile that i was feeling so light in my heart. And at that moment i forgot all the fear that i used to have in my heart of losing her. I really adore that moment. I pray to God to blessed all the mom’s out their in the whole world with the healthy , prosperous and happy life because mother is a very beautiful thing that has ever happened on this world. They are the living angles in the human body. And i feel without mother’s life is just tasteless or can say a having a life of dead corpse.

#Love

Love is not so easy. From beginning till end we all gave auditions in the field of love. We lose but we still try. We somehow get successful in love, we compromise, we adjust, but then suddenly that person whom you trust the most leaves you. We feel betrayed. We learn a lesson. We somehow decided to move on. And we cease to believe in love because we want to live . Some of us even thought giving up on this love shit . And then for a moment, we all ignore the sadness of betrayel but deep inside we all feel the hope that makes us alive, that makes us believe that true love still exist. We know somewhere in our heart that someday there will be someone who will understand us, knows our worth, make us feel loved and vanish that all hatred and pain from our heart. So the reality is we all live for love.

Hello!

Hi, this is me, Arshita!! Welcome to arshitablogspot!! I’m a student and have just completed my senior secondary education. I’m from India, Punjab and currently i’m planing to shift to Canada for my further studies . And about writing contents and blogs, literally have no idea and any experience. But its crazy that i always want to write and share my ideas and for that i used to write in one of my “secret diary” when i was in 7th grade (its a long story though). Apart from this, i love music, singing , travel and adventure. My blogs will be mostly dedicated to majority of (food, beauty, travel, health, life and more). Though i’m a fresher so please apologize me for my any gramatically errors and vocabulary because english is not my native language and i am still learning. But i will try my best to not make people bored with my stuff!! Thank You.

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